Because everyone apparently cares more about Pam – does she need a blog or what?! – and asked how she did in the race, she came in 2nd in her age division and ran a 3:34:19. She was also the 6th woman overall! Go girl!
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Two nights ago we went out to dinner at Kobe Japanese Steakhouse in Lahaina. Ashley was craving sushi and it was one of those times where you go online and check places out and then it’s either gone out of business or looks like they get shipments of fish every 4 weeks… not so fresh.
So after a couple strikeouts and seeing restaurants that probably shouldn’t be legally allowed to sell raw anything, we ended up at Kobe where the sushi was the best part of the meal.
We each shared a hibachi meal with our husbands and then got a couple sushi rolls. Jeffrey and I said our rainbow roll was one of the best foods we’ve eaten on this trip.
Our guy was pretty funny; I should probably have written down all his jokes to steal them.
At our table we sat next to an Indian couple from New Orleans who were on their honeymoon; they told us they had an arranged marriage which I’m assuming is customary in their culture.
Seems strange, of course, to us, but I’ve heard that arranged marriages have a lower divorce rate than we do in the US. Anyone heard of that? Why do you think that is? Simply because they’re determined to make it work and divorce isn’t an option?
Anyways, back to more important issues, like my hair. I hadn’t washed it for days here. I curled it a few times and just didn’t feel like washing it so it grew bigger and bigger which you can see here:
Ashley was so disgusted by my highlighted nest that she threw up in her mouth and then took a picture of the back:
Ok, so it’s starting to dread itself. You say that like that’s a bad thing?! I now look like half of the island.
Last night we went out for our last dinner in Hawaii. Most of our friends went to a luau but it was sold out by the time I called for tickets… no go for us. They obviously weren’t at the race and didn’t see who SkinnyRunner was.
The sunset was gorgeous as is the law here in Hawaii. It has to be.
We walked over to Whaler’s Village and had dinner at the Hula Grill with our friends Erika and Derek.
The great thing about both hotels we stayed at is everything is so walkable and there’s a lot of activity all around. We went to Kona in February and noticed that it’s much more quiet and secluded there. Because we like to go out until 9pm when I fall asleep, Jay and I both really enjoyed kinda being in the center of everything. Plus, we could get our pervy people watching on.
Jeeb went golfing again yesterday and ended up with a case of Lobster Face. It’s ok though because I ended up with a case of Hidden Eyes:
Time to pack, sad.
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Looks like you guys had a great time! It cracks me up with all the names you call your husband. Love it! Have a safe trip home!
I’ve wondered about arranged marriage and divorce before as well. My assumptionis that the marriage is viewed as an agreement. Here I think its all love and flowers and there is no discussion about actual issues because “I love them and they are perfect and their socks will never smell.” Then we see the truth and say “Oh crap I want out.” Marriage here is a thing we do for love and not as something that is mutually beneficial to both parties.
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I actually like the curly, wavy beach look. I’ll have you know that I spend about an hour trying to get my hair to look like that, my hair is long and straight. I want some waves
My co-worker broke up with his girlfriend because his parents said it was time for the arrange marriage thing to happen. He knew it was going to happen eventually but he was hoping his parents would change their maid and let him marry the girl he chose. Kind of a sad story but he just accepts it.
Love that dress you wore on your last night. SUPER cute!!!! After reading all your Maui posts, I have a strong desire to visit Hawaii again.
Glad you had a good trip and congrats on another marathon under your belt!
Now I’m craving sushi! My hair kind of always looks like that. The curse of having monster curly hair.
Looks like you guys had tons of fun. I need to figure out a vacation and drag friends along.
arranged marriage is difficult for us to get, and primarily because we are a choice driven culture, eager to establish our own traditions, and we have high expectations for passion and devotion. all of which i think are excellant perspectives on marriage. hindu and muslim cultures view marriage a little differently because of their long standing traditions and spirituality. i’m friends with ppl from both cultures/faiths and the hindu couple was very much in love and happy to be married – but they also knew for some time that they had been betrothed. so they had a vested interest in courting one another. the muslim couple i would say was less “in love” and more in agreement. they hardly knew each other because he still lived in pakistan when they started planning the wedding (here in AZ). they courted, while being engaged, but ya know, they do relationships different. some couples really connect and have a great friendship and intimacy, and others have to cultivate a relationship for a long time. i knew another indian girl who was absolutely not in agreement with her betrothal but she could not bear to tell her parents she wanted to choose her spouse. it’s also customary for a couple to live with parents – not all the time, but many do have another generation in the household. i think it all depends on how liberal a family is within their religion – some Indians are much more flexible and some Muslims are much more rigid in tradition. I worked with one Muslim girl who never covered her hair, and another who always did because she liked tradition. I think it’s hard to understand unless you grow up in these faiths. And divorce is really not an option – there’s far too much cultural stigma, still, against a divorced woman.
The Hula Grill is the best for people watching. We love staying at The Whaler (condos at Whaler’s Village) because it’s so central. Not as fancy, but we don’t spend much time there anyway.
The Ritz also does fantastic sushi. So fresh and amazingly delicious with beautiful views.
I think arranged marriages last longer b/c they’d be disowned by their families if they didn’t stay together. My in-laws were an arranged marriage from Greece. 11 years age difference. Let’s just say ish went down after 3 kids and 15 years of marriage and yet they are somehow still technically “married.” They now live separately and barely speak to each other, but still “married.” When I asked my MIL why a few years back she said it would bring on more shame “back at home” (meaning greece) to her family than if they just kept up appearances. Holidays are super fun over here!
I actually had a single dread in my hair for about a year for pretty much the same reason you almost did… I sort of like it though haha. I wrapped it so it looked like it was at least purposely there.
I’ve read that arranged marriages have a better success rate because the parents often take into account their childrens’ personalities/life experiences when they do the picking, rather than our more “passionate” (and sometimes irrational) choices. Also, they go into the relationship with low expectations, as another poster mentioned. I’ve found I’m most thrilled with my husband when I come at him with low expectations
I’m sure cultural pressures to remain married comes into play too…
Your hair looks great!! I can’t go more than 18 hours without a wash or else I look like someone dumped an oil slick in my scalp. It’s nasty and very annoying :/
Sounds like you had a wonderful trip!
and do you even know one ugly person? between you, your friends, your family, everyone is gorgeous!!
omg i know! i wanna make all of them eat a lotta butter! or avocados since those are healthier fat. i don’t wish death on ppl – just uglier-than-me-ness. no no no…i’m kidding. if i ever hung out with SR anymore i could be her phat friend.
I was actually talking about the arranged marriage thing with a friend of mine last week. He was saying that he had done some reading (he’s going through a divorce right now) and Americans typically marry when they feel lust or passion for another. Cultures with arranged marriages are typically not in love with one another and have to work at it to make it work.
I acutally have a friend that had an arranged marriage and they’ve been married for 8 years and have 3 girls together. When they married, they didn’t even speak the same language and had had one meeting prior to the wedding. They seem really happy together though. Interesting topic though.
You’ve GOT to try Sansei for Sushi. It’s at Kapalua. Best freakin’ sushi you’ll ever have. Incredibly fresh.
Dang, GO PAM!!
I was actually going to comment that your hair looked good! ha maybe dirty is a better way to go!
Ayyyy… my hair gets all tangled like that alll the time.
And I <3 that dress you wore to dinner! Yeaaah!
Those pics are gorgeous! I don’t know if I mentioned this already, but my sis is actually moving to Hawaii in a month and as much as I’m going to miss her, I am SO EXCITED to have her there for me to visit!
What, is that selfish??!
My friend from India told me her mother’s (who was in an arranged marriage) philosophy: Arranged marriages start cold and get hotter, while American marriages start hot and get cold. Which, I think, is probably pretty accurate.
I think you should’ve WORN your medal to the luau and flashed it to someone there to get you in… definitely would’ve gotten you a lei at least?
As for the hair — I actually LOVE it. Love natural hair!
I love that you haven’t washed your hair in days. That’s amazing. I am the same way and people are always astonished that I don’t shower or wash my hair everyday. I just want to look high maintenance, I don’t want to be!
With all that running you do who has time to wash hair:))
Looks you are having an awesome time !!! My husband and me are going to hawaii in novemeber , hope the weather is nice then too .. About the arranged marriage … I am Indian and yes it is pretty normal to have arranged marriage ( I did not have one and it was hard to convince my parents but they eventually came around , but it is not easy .. ). In India the girl lives with the in-laws since the son is expected to take care of his parents …. so when you marry you pretty much marry the family . The family choosing the bride means they know the family , the families get along , makes it easier for the girl to move in after the wedding , she does not her husband all that well , being comfortable with the family helps … In arranged marriage you have no expectations from your spouse , after your are married and you learn to adjust and comprimise … it’s not easy … I think it works , since in India where tradition and culture so much integrated … you actually put in effort to make it work …
Bahahah I love the island hair
I really liked this Q and A post. Thanks for sharing.
i thought your hair looked so pretty curly! jealous!
Now we don’t ALL have arranged marriages. Oh wait, you meant Indian cultures, I thought you meant New Orleans culture.
Thanks 4 the shout-out chica!! The race was a “beautiful monster!” I later found out that “Lahaina” means the “hot sun!” There was a certain point in the race where the the heat just said “HELLO!!”
You did GREAT!! Great job for your first race after fishing season!!
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